WOW! What an incredible few days.
My greatest fear, that our stoic, warm, solid, peaceful, smiling Bede would all too easily fade into nothingness, is slowly, person by person, facebook share by facebook share, being alleviated.
The blog has taken off. Everyone from Joel Madden to Kevin Rudd, Liverpool player Brad Jones to Chrissie Swan and so many more have tweeted support for Bede and I’m not even on twitter. All our facebook friends, the people in our atmosphere, have been reading about Bede. I can’t adequately express my deep thankfulness. It is such a gift you all give me as a mother to know my son was here, you noticed, he matters and that despite his short life he is getting his opportunity to make his mark on this old world.
We had Bede baptized on Saturday and as I walked around the corner to the church I was overwhelmed by all the people standing out the front ready to offer Bede and our family, their love and support. Such a joyous milestone, marked with a front lawn party, gifts, good friends, champagne, kids running around, just a total celebration of Bede and his joy.
The days have also been marred with some difficulties. Bede is momentarily, worn and wearied. For the first time in his life he cries with discontentment. He’s had a rough couple of days, with the new tumours have come more pain and so we have been working hard at getting his pain management plan right. I think we are getting on top of it now.
Today we decided to up his treatment to the hard core chemo. It’s a difficult decision. For a while most of our time will be spent at the hospital which will be difficult for Bede and for Gus. We were at the stage where the doctors would have allowed us to just make him comfortable if we had pushed for that. But for now he is full of life and vigor and a grounded determinedness. He’s still smiling.
At the beginning of all this we promised ourselves and our families and Bede that we would fight like no one has ever fought before. We also said that when the time came we were the right people to honour his truth, his life experience and fill his life with sweetness, comfort and light just as he has filled ours. We’re not there yet and the doctors agree. He surely is tired though.
In the hospital for a short visit on Sunday, I watched as his limbs just melted exhaustedly into Roy’s arms. He took a moment, searching within himself for the energy and started producing glorious smiles. His light shining relentlessly, determinedly, refusing to be obscured.
There is an exhausted joy. A lopsided happiness. Until now Bede has just simply continued on despite his illness. I really see for the first time this illness taking its toll on Bede’s soul. I also see, Bede digging in his heels and fighting. Refusing to be robbed of his gentle peace. Its not an angry fight or battle but a peaceful protest. He is shaken but he is undeterred. He is calm and beautiful and warm and his light glows and lights up all those around him. He is powerful and gentle. He is peaceful and strong.
In this, some of his most difficult moments yet he is showing his metal and I am in awe of his strength and his grace.